What Does JOI Stand For?
JOI stands for Jerk Off Instructions (also called Jack Off Instructions). It refers to the practice where one person gives explicit instructions to another about how to masturbate.
What is Jerk Off Instructions (JOI)?
Jerk off instructions is a form of sexual control where the dominant partner directs exactly how the submissive should masturbate. This includes instructions about pace, technique, when to stop, and whether they’re allowed to orgasm.
JOI is popular in femdom relationships and BDSM dynamics as a way to exercise control over the submissive’s sexual pleasure.
How Does JOI Work?
JOI typically involves:
- Detailed instructions about stroking speed and technique
- Commands about when to start, stop, or slow down
- Control over whether orgasm is permitted
- Use of visual stimuli (the dominant’s presence or images)
- Incorporation of other elements like countdown timers
- Sometimes combined with teasing, denial, or humiliation
JOI can occur in real-time with a partner or through recorded content (videos, audio, written instructions).
Why Do People Enjoy JOI?
People engage in JOI for various reasons:
For the person receiving instructions:
- Surrendering control over their own pleasure
- Following commands and demonstrating obedience
- Building anticipation and arousal
- Experiencing guided fantasy scenarios
- Connecting with their dominant partner remotely
For the person giving instructions:
- Exercising sexual control and authority
- Witnessing their partner’s arousal and obedience
- Creating customised experiences
- Maintaining dominance even when physically apart
- Exploring verbal and psychological dominance
Types of JOI
JOI comes in different styles:
Gentle/Sensual JOI Encouraging, praise-filled instructions focused on pleasure and intimacy.
Dominant/Strict JOI Commanding, authoritative instructions emphasising control and obedience.
Humiliation JOI Instructions combined with degrading language or scenarios (like SPH).
Edging JOI Instructions designed to bring the person close to orgasm repeatedly without allowing release.
CEI JOI Instructions that conclude with directing the person to consume their ejaculate.
JOI in Femdom Relationships
In female-led dynamics, JOI serves several purposes:
- Controlling when and how the male partner experiences sexual release
- Maintaining dominance over his sexuality
- Creating opportunities for teasing and denial
- Establishing authority through sexual control
- Providing pleasure whilst reinforcing the power dynamic
Many dominant women combine JOI with other practices like chastity control, orgasm denial, or ruined orgasms.
JOI Safety and Consent
JOI is a low-risk practice when done consensually:
- Boundaries - Discuss what types of instructions are acceptable
- Consent - Both parties must agree to participate
- Comfort - Either person can stop at any time
- Physical safety - Instructions should never encourage harmful actions
- Emotional safety - Be mindful of psychological impact, especially with humiliation elements
Common Questions About JOI
Is JOI only for couples? No. JOI exists in many forms, from real-time partner interactions to recorded content created by performers.
Do you have to follow every instruction? In consensual dynamics, participants should honour the agreement, but boundaries and safe words always apply.
Can JOI be part of a healthy relationship? Yes. When consensual and mutually enjoyable, JOI can be a healthy expression of power exchange and intimacy.
JOI Content Online
JOI has become popular in online adult content:
- Videos featuring performers giving instructions
- Audio recordings for guided experiences
- Written scenarios and scripts
- Interactive content with branching instructions
- Custom content created for specific preferences
The popularity of JOI content reflects the appeal of guided, controlled sexual experiences and the power of psychological dominance.
Related terms: Femdom, CEI, D/s, Orgasm Control